By Da Mama
Another work week almost done. Thursday night rocks, even more than weekend nights, because of the anticipation and hope for some time together this weekend.
Bella went bowling today for the first time ever. She expected it to be hard after her vast experience with bowling which mostly consisted of playing bowling on Wii (and most recently ended with a tragic Wii-to-the-head accident.) So she was nervous. But she did well. Said the bowling shoes were slippery, but she got three spares "not at the same time". She also scored better than several older kids in her summer adventure daycare camp and was proud of herself.
Iris has been a bit of a challenge lately, not that this is unexpected given her age. Her emotions lay so close to the surface. Most of the time she is good. Our little hippy love child likes to show her affection. But she also has a very quick temper and her good will can turn on a dime if you cross her. I can actually see a shadow of mean cross behind her eyes just before she loses her temper - phew she can get mad. This week I was carrying her to time out for fighting with her sister, and that dark shadow crossed behind her eyes, and she raised her little hand in the air and purposely scratched her fingernails across my bare shoulder. She immediately recognized her grave error; however, the damage was done. I keep thinking, if she is like this now, imagine her at 13 years old. . . In the photo attached to this post, I asked her to demonstrate her angry pout. Her sister had to help of course.
The Princesses have been running amok in our house this week too. Cinderella, Cinderella, Cinderella, we love you, Cinderella. At least my children love you. Da Mama ain't really so sure. I'm kinda tired of these Princesses. Not just because I've been overexposed, but also because those gals just wait around all the time to be rescued by various handsome princes. This is a theme that runs through not only Disney movies, but also most mainstream adult movies (anyone seen Spiderman III?). The more you notice it, the more you notice it. And I'm tired of it. How much of this really effects the way these young women view the world and their place in it? How much has this undercurrent effected my view of the world? How often have I unconsciously fallen back into the belief that a woman needs a man to save her, etc? I've felt this way before, that I just want to be rescued from whatever situation, and I get angry at myself about it.
So, I've been mad at the Princesses this week and told Bella as much. This prompted us to engage in The Great Princess Debate. . .
Da Mama: I'm tired of these Princesses.
Queen Bee: Why would you be tired of Princesses? I'm never tired of Princesses.
Da Mama: Because they just sit around waiting for Princes to save them and that's not the way the world works.
Queen Bee: Like which Princesses?
Da Mama: Cinderella for one. She just sings and dances and lets that wicked stepmother and stepsisters boss her around all the time and waits for the Prince to think she is pretty and marry her to get her out of that house. She should have said to her stepmother, "Stepmother, this house is part mine and this money is part mine and you don't have a right to boss me around. I'm leaving here and want my fair share. You and your stinky daughters can stay here and do your own darn chores!"
Queen Bee: MOMMY! But Cinderella was just a little girl when her daddy died. It wasn't her fault she lived with a mean stepmother. And what about Sleeping Beauty? It wasn't her fault she ate that poison apple.
Da Mama: Well, I'm just tired of watching those Princesses stand by while stuff happens to them. They should take action! Take control! Do something themselves.
Queen Bee: OH MOMMY! PRINCESSES AREN'T REAL!!!!
Wild Iris: You two stop fighting now!
Da Mama (Quietly turning to back to her eldest): Okay. . . But does your sister understand that they are not real?
Queen Bee: Probably. . . no. . . but we'll tell her when she gets older.
Good point. Anyhow, do I sound like a crazed feminist to even rally against these Princesses? Does it really matter? Today I discussed this with two of my dear work girlfriends and they looked at me like I was nuts. "Little kids should be able to fantasize about these things. They'll understand when they get older." Will they?
Beyond Princesses. . . Todd has been working hard this week getting ready for the Trek dealer show. He still has one foot doing his old job, and one doing his new, so that makes for some busy feet. We've both been crazy tired, I had a migraine earlier this week. . .he picked up a lot of the slack around the house and with the girls. I couldn't hope for a better partner in this happy chaos.